> > I didn't want to actually host my own mail stack > > Is there a way to only host the receive portion? > > I'm happy to pay someone to handle all the idiocy around sending email and getting it through Google and Microsoft, but I'd really like to hold my emails myself.

Sure. Set your MX to your own SMTP server but pay a mail delivery service to send your emails & use their SMTP servers as your outgoing server. You'll have to setup SPF & DKIM appropriately of course.

It's not trivial to do this, but it should be possible.

> Set your MX to your own SMTP server but pay a mail delivery service to send your emails

Is there a paid mail delivery service that doesn't get marked as spam instantaneously?

Or is there a way to do this through something like Fastmail?