Sounds like you have kids now and that's wonderful!

"Wife being the only woman working" is an odd metric though. My wife went from being an ER physician when we met (fun times during COVID pregnant with our first) to doing telemedicine after we had our second, to doing that part time after we had our third.

Similar to many women in our circle who are highly educated and professional, kids mean "working less" but this decision represents a desired and meaningful tradeoff. My wife loved her work but she (obviously?) loves being there for our children even more.

At the end of the day, I suspect "singing around the piano" is a W not an L. It's funny that if you went to a "normal" party and everyone ended up drunk and scrolling on the phone you'd not posit that as how weird non-religious people are :)