Yep I feel the same. To know if you're the target user or not I guess you go to Apple's marketing material.

Do you see anyone that looks like you, doing anything that looks like what you do? I don't and I can't remember the last time I did.

It seems to be a lifestyle brand now for people I have little in common with.

At least with Linux there's the possibility that you can make it your own even if it's not that way right now.