I get that it might feel like the rules you learned about how to refer to people are changing and that you might get chided for something you didn't even know what a "rule". Everyone feels that way. Even outside of the world of pronouns we make social faux pas and don't always really get the rules everyone else seems to be using. I know I have, giving unsolicited advice was a big social rule I had to learn the hard way.

My point is, I'd like to think we can rise to the challenge. If the rules made sense to you, do you think you would feel more comfortable engaging with them?