> community only shows up when the bad decision is imminent

That's where naming and shaming comes in. In a small community, there is a long-term cost to trying to game inattention.

I dunno I agree, it's at least not been my experience with these types of parents over 10 years in my local meetings. Again - if you genuinely think children are being harmed in your community you're unlikely to care Jim from down the road doesn't let you borrow his tractor anymore (or whatever).

Maybe it's not something that can be said for every community, but the same point would apply here in reverse.