Pro-tip: On iPhone, iPad, and macOS, you can shut off email notifications for everything except VIPs.

https://www.idownloadblog.com/2018/08/28/add-senders-vip-mai...

Yeah, this is the way. And then be super parsimonious about who gets to be a VIP.

Email from my boss, my wife, my sister, my mother, and like 2 best friends produces a notification. Nothing else.

And if any of those folks were too chatty, I'd make a different choice.