the only thing missing from this setup is the ability to unlock remotely (as I can with my kids' devices). for some reason apple won't let an adult (fully) manage the screen time of another adult.

my wife has the password for my screentime, but i can't send her a request if we're physically apart. which means i'm out of luck, or she has to share the actual code with me, which then requires her to change it (and remember the new one)