>Even the "why does matrix multiplication look that way" is incredibly deep but practically impossible to motivate from other considerations. You just start with "well that's the way it is" and grind away until one day when you're looking at a chain of linear transformations you realize that everything clicks.

Can you expand on your experience with this? I do some graphics programming so I understand that applying matrix transformations works, and I've seen the 3blue1brown 'matrices are spreadsheets' explanation (luv me sum spreadsheets), but the intuition still isn't really there. The 'incredibly deep "why matrix multiplication looks that way"' is totally lost on me.