> Acceptance seem to lessen my frustration on discussing with architects that seemingly always take the opposite stance to me. There is no right or wrong, just always different trade offs depending on what rule or constraint you are prioritizing in your mind.

That’s a stance of acceptance, however I’d say that there are people who are absolutely wrong by most metrics sometimes and also stubborn to the point that you’ll never convince them. Ergo, the frustration is inevitable when faced with them.