Most work 40 to 50 hrs per week. Some places even a more extreme 60.

For this to be accurate, you're saying 160% aka 1.6 or 64 to 80 hrs per week, with 96hrs as the extreme?

I mean, 64 - 80 hours a week can be the expectation, and then it's just that almost nobody is living up to the expectation.

Anecdotally, a hybrid technical manager I had in the past worked 60 hours a week pretty much minimum. Which sucks.