Those are the two I can think of.

Jetstream is written in Go and the Go SDK is very mature, and has all the support one needs to create streams and consumers; never used it from Elixir, though. EMQX's Go support looks less good (though since it's MQTT you can use any MQTT client).

Regarding data reliability, I've never lost production data with Jetstream. But I've had some odd behaviour locally where everything has just disappeared suddenly. I would be seriously anxious if I had TBs of stream data I couldn't afford to lose, and no way to regenerate it easily. It's possible to set up a consumer that backs up everything to (say) cloud storage, just in case. You can use Benthos to set up such a pipeline. I think I'd be less anxious with Kafka or Redpanda because of their reputation in being very solid.

Going back to the "whole batch or nothing", I do see this as a good thing myself. It means you are always processing in exact order. If you have to reject something, the "right" approach is an explicit dead-letter topic — you can still consume that one from the same consumer. But it makes the handling very explicit. With Jetstream, you do have an ordered stream, but the broker also tracks acid/nacks, which adds complexity. You get nacks even if you never do it manually; all messages have a configurable ack deadline, and if your consumer is too slow, the message will be automatically bounced. (The ack delay also means if a client crashes, the message will sit in the broker for up to the ack delay before it gets delivered to another consumer.)

But of course, this is super convenient, too. You can write simpler clients, and the complicated stuff is handled by the broker. But having written a lot of these pipelines, my philosophy these days is that — at least for "this must not be allowed to fail" processing, I prefer something that is explicit and simpler and less magical, even if it's a bit less convenient to write code for it. Just my 2 cents!

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