> Writing stuff in a file is not “memory”

Do you understand yourself what you just said? File is a way to organize data in memory of a computer by definition. When you write instructions to LLM, they persistently modify your prompts making LLM „remember“ certain stuff like coding conventions or explanations of your architectural choices.

> particularly if I have to do it

You have to communicate with LLM about the code. You either do it persistently (must remember) or contextually (should know only in context of a current session). So word „particularly“ is out of place here. You choose one way or another instead of bring able to just tell that some information is important or unimportant long-term. This communication would happen with humans too. LLMs have different interface for it, more explicit (giving the perception of more effort, when it is in fact the same; and let’s not forget that LLM is able to decide itself on whether to remember something or not).

> and in any case, it consumes context

So what? Generalization is an effective way to compress information. Because of it persistent instructions consume only a tiny fraction of context, but they reduce the need for LLM to go into full analysis of your code.

> but it’s still fundamentally different than how a person thinks.

Again, so what? Nobody can keep in short-term memory the entire code base. It should not be the expectation to have this ability neither it should not be considered a major disadvantage not to have it. Yes, we use our „context windows“ differently in a thinking process. What matters is what information we pack there and what we make of it.