I treat LLMs as a tool.

I want it to have empathy so that it can understand what I'm getting at when I occasionally ask a poorly worded question.

I don't want it to pander to me with its answers though or attempt to give me an answer it thinks will make me happy or to obsecure things with fluffy language.

Especially when it doesn't know the answer to something.

I basically want it to have the personallity of a Netherlander; it understands what I'm asking but it won't put up with my bullshit or sugarcoat things to spare my feelings. :P

> I want it to have empathy so that it can understand what I'm getting at when I occasionally ask a poorly worded question.

I'm not sure what empathy is supposed to buy you here, I think it would be far more useful for it to ask for clarification. Exposing your ambiguity is instructive for you.

Some recent studies have shown that LLMs might negatively impact cognitive function, and I would guess its strong intuitive sense of guessing what you're really after is part of it.