Could you expand on that a bit? You’re the second comment to say this is about ‘women’ and I don’t get it - what’s different? Whatever you think is ‘painfully obvious’ here is obviously not landing for me, can you spell it out?

▲

derektank 4 days ago | parent [-]

>I missed coming home to postgame my bad dates with my roommates over a cup of tea.

For whatever reason, I think men are a lot less likely to engage in this kind of social behavior, even if they are roommates. They're also a lot less likely to engage in spontaneous dance parties or enjoy group hip hop twerking exercises. Basically, a lot of the benefits of having roommates that the author describes are experienced far less often by men with roommates

▲

ramesh31 4 days ago | parent | next [-]

Pretty much. And I'm not even remotely saying it's a good thing. This is one of a myriad reasons men objectively live shorter, less healthy, and lonelier lives. You can speculate a million more reasons as to why, but it's just the reality of life.

▲

wibbily 4 days ago | parent | prev | next [-]

We just do it differently... "postgame work over several beers" is the norm in every house I've lived in, even when we didn't know each other well.

	▲	derektank 4 days ago \| parent [-]
		Perhaps experience varies, but I've never talked about specific dates in any detail with even my close male friends (let alone roommates)

▲

filoleg 3 days ago | parent | prev [-]

Boomer men complaining about their wives is an actual boomer facebook meme for a reason.

Whether men just sitting down and talking openly about their feelings comes from the “men should be more sensitive and willing to share their feelings with others” take or the “bbq and beers with the boys in the backyard” take, the same point stands regardless.

Like, guys in a group relaxing over beers or bbq and just talking about their feelings (just without using this specific terminology) has been a thing since forever ago in the US. I cannot speak for all countries ever, but in Russia (since before soviet union even existed), sauna+alcohol after+snacks along with the boys just talking about anything weighing on their mind has been a thing too. From what I know about ancient Greece, they had an equivalent of it as well.

Regional/cultural equivalents aside, this seems like a somewhat common experience/ behavior across time, and painting it as some new thing that comes from the same place as “it is so cool and progressive for men to be into group twerking exercises” is disingenuous.