> Those writing parsers are disproportionately writing things like programming languages and language servers that are quite complex.

Sure, but adding the complexity of a parser generator doesn't help with that complexity in most cases.

[General purpose] programming languages are a quintessential example. Yes, a compiler or an interpreter is a very complex program. But unless your programming language needs to be parsed in multiple languages, you definitely do not need to generate the parser in many languages like SQLite does. That just adds complexity for no reason.

You can't just say "it's complex, therefore it needs a parser generator" if adding the parser generator doesn't address the complexity in any way.