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| ▲ | 90s_dev 3 days ago | parent | next [-] |
| Have I not paid my price by going to jail? By being homeless and sleeping in my car in the cold of winter? By having people show up at my door in January trying to cause physical violence to me? Are you the same person you were 9 years ago? Would you rather my children not have food and shelter because of mistakes I made 9 years ago and paid for in abundance? Should I put up a gofundme so that they can have their needs met? I'd rather work to earn that money. But nobody will employ me. So this is all I can do. Do you have a better idea? If your best answer is "oh well, you committed an atrocity, therefore your children should suffer," then fine, that's on you. But I won't settle for that. I will do everything I can to provide for them. |
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| ▲ | posterguy 3 days ago | parent | next [-] | | weird to parlay someone making publicly available information known to those who you are asking money from into an accusation of wanting harm to come to your kids. least of all given that you harmed a kid. "nobody will employ me", well, probably because they have the benefit of the knowledge being shared here. > paid for in abundance its my opinion, shared by many in our society, that you did not pay for it "in abundance". in fact, harming a child incurs a debt that can never be truly "paid for". your reward for time served was to no longer be in jail, not to have your history erased. | | |
| ▲ | 90s_dev 3 days ago | parent [-] | | I'm aware that many people will not be happy even Hell really does exist and I go there for eternity. Many people have expressed this sentiment in the most gory terms. Those people will never be happy, and I think that's fair. I'll pray for them though that they can have a change of heart, so they can have a chance at happiness. | | |
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| ▲ | Spoom 3 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | To be fair: > Duration of Registration: Lifetime Registrant Arguably the law says that you will never have paid your price. | | |
| ▲ | 90s_dev 3 days ago | parent [-] | | With regards to the law, yes. I have to pay $100 every year and tell the government all my information. Society is not the government. Society has the opportunity to let me back in. | | |
| ▲ | Spoom 3 days ago | parent [-] | | Sure, and I'm not flagging your post or anything here. Society has the opportunity, but not the obligation. |
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| ▲ | dfedbeef 3 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | What about this one > A jury has convicted a Woodstock man for putting a child in a headlock, pulling him to the ground and striking him repeatedly, leaving him injured in Woodstock. https://www.lakemchenryscanner.com/2023/05/25/jury-convicts-... | | |
| ▲ | 90s_dev 3 days ago | parent [-] | | That is not a black and white situation, and I received only 10 days in jail because of the circumstances, despite the prosecutor asking for the full 365 days. The statues of Illinois do not permit any evidence prior to the day of the incidents to be presented. I could not provide the jury any evidence that my son was becoming a very real danger who I had to protect myself and my other children from for at least a month beforehand. I am not and have never been a violent person, so he didn't get that from me. I could not present to the jury that I had called 911 on him several times, that he threw sharp objects at me, that I did everything I could do disarm him with as least physical force. I did not know about crisis hotline and the police never told me about it or suggested it, they simply said I'd have to figure something out. All I could present to the jury was his own testimony, under oath, that he had in fact harmed me and caused me physical harm. I used as little force as necessary to restrain him from another episode of dangerous behavior. I'm not sure what I could or should have done differently. And anyone commenting this or that solution, I would just say, I agree violence is rarely the answer, but I'm not sure what you would have done differently either. He has since been arrested at least once for similar violent behavior, so I am vindicated at least somewhat, because he didn't learn that from me, and I tried everything I could to prevent and stop it for the month before my arrest, and I haven't seen him since the arrest 4 years ago. And I was never violent. He didn't learn it from me. In order to protect another person's reputation, I will not say where I think he learned it. | | |
| ▲ | IncreasePosts 3 days ago | parent [-] | | Does his whole school know that his dad is a registered sex offender? That might lead to some anger issues | | |
| ▲ | 90s_dev 3 days ago | parent [-] | | He had a great time in school, was very popular and had lots of friends. I know what led to his violent behavior. It didn't come from imitating me. I filed with the courts to protect him from someone, and the judge agreed with me that it was alarming what he was experiencing from others. But I failed to use the courts to protect him before it was too late. I tried and I failed. That's all I can say. |
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| ▲ | arp242 3 days ago | parent | prev | next [-] | | I'll just comment here and say that I support your right to participate in society. I don't think this entire thread is especially relevant here. I don't have a clear comprehensive theory on what justice is (and if I did, it would be too large to fit in this margin), but forever being haunted by a criminal record for the rest of your life is not it. There are no details on that page. No one here is in any position to judge anything because you need the full details of the case. But it's pretty obvious this is not Jeffery Epstein or Marc Dutroux we're talking about here. I find many comments here unpleasant, hysterical, and even cruel. | |
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| ▲ | jarebear6expepj 3 days ago | parent | prev [-] | | [flagged] | | |
| ▲ | 90s_dev 3 days ago | parent [-] | | I don't know how long it takes each person to heal. But I know healing is possible. |
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| ▲ | jarebear6expepj 3 days ago | parent | prev [-] |
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| ▲ | johnisgood 3 days ago | parent [-] | | Not to downplay this as I do not know what really happened, but you could theoretically (and practically?) get these charges just by peeing outside and a kid walking by. Is this correct? I suppose it would count as "exposing organs". Or sending a "dick pic" online to someone you assumed to be an adult. So many guys do this and I have never understood how they could get off of that, but then again, there are weirder kinks out there. :| I would like to hear from someone who is more familiar with the law, be it US or EU. I am asking because I have urinary incontinence, and I do wear "panties" diaper when I go outside, but still. Would be good to know. | | |
| ▲ | 90s_dev 3 days ago | parent | next [-] | | From one perspective, you could say that I had a mental illness caused by a combination of issues from my childhood that caused me to have a serious problem with exhibitionism from 5 until 30 years old. From another perspective, I was just a morally evil person for all of that time. I think both are correct. It's more complicated. I have my own thoughts on what caused everything to happen the way it did and why I was the way I was. But what I can say is that I'm no longer that person. But that doesn't matter to most people. Part of my just punishment is that my reputation is forever ruined. That's why I adopted this handle, 90s-dev. My plan was to use this to make money anonymously. But then at the last second I had the idea to go public and hope for a public redemption, partly because I needed money and knew that the product wouldn't sell and was running out of savings, and partly because I strongly felt like I was being deceitful, which is an awful feeling. So I revealed my identity in my Show HN post. | | |
| ▲ | johnisgood 3 days ago | parent [-] | | Unfortunately many people will stop at your past, and it ends there. They will not consider or appreciate you coming forward. Personally, I could not care less. I care about the project, not the person behind it. Of course when it comes to funding the project (or someone with a past like yours), that complicates things. Maybe you should be as transparent as possible with the money? In any case, I am not sure what I would do and I do not have the means to donate anyways. |
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| ▲ | posterguy 3 days ago | parent | prev [-] | | the mind reels in an effort to understand your point | | |
| ▲ | johnisgood 3 days ago | parent [-] | | Well my point is that in case I have no diapers, I may have to resort to peeing outside behind a tree or something (like most of us did back in the days). I guess I could just pee myself. :P And I have some curiosity with respect to the law. | | |
| ▲ | posterguy 3 days ago | parent [-] | | [flagged] | | |
| ▲ | dang 3 days ago | parent | next [-] | | Ok, you've made your point more than once, so please stop now. | |
| ▲ | johnisgood 3 days ago | parent | prev [-] | | Oh jeez, I am not into sexual stuff in general and I find if baffling that people do send such pictures, especially to random people but I do not want to come across as someone who thinks I am morally superior because I am most definitely not. In any case, yeah, peeing my pants might be leaning towards the safe side. And no, I did not mean "intentionally pee near kids", that is disgusting (to me). I meant that theoretically it could be a problem were a parent with their kid to walk nearby at the same time (and I am curious about the law side of it), not that I would go to a nearby park and do it (I cannot hold it back anyways). That is disgusting. The problem is that I cannot even hold it back, so no matter where I am, I will either pee or pee myself. If I am at a nearby park (not gonna happen, I have mobility issues), then of course I am going to pee myself, unless the park is empty. Thankfully I have never gotten into a situation like this before because I try to plan as much as I can before going out, but accidents happen. |
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