"I would go through discussions about how to do something"

Have you compared that to your normal debugging thought processes? I get that you might be given another way to think about the problem but another human might be best for that, rather than a next token guesser.

I have a devil of a time with my team and wider, the younger ones mainly, getting them to pick up a phone instead of sending emails or chats or whatever. A voice chat can solve a problem within minutes or even seconds instead of the rather childish game of email ping pong. I do it myself too (email etc) and I even encourage it, despite what I said earlier - effective use of comms is a skill but you do need to understand when to use each variety.