> Nobody has any right to dictate other people's lives.

The pragmatics of activism prove contrary to this ideal. The reality is that this is a failed argument and it will continue to fail regardless of how often it's repeated. I hate to say it, but the only way to counter is to win at the activism game rather than complain about the rules.

Nothing failed. People always did things they had no right to, as long as they were allowed to do them.