Let's be real you wrote men/women only to be PC. You really meant small group of men.

>> Let's be real you wrote men/women only to be PC. You really meant small group of men.

Let me share a message I got from a woman I met a couple years ago on a dating site: "Just a side note about the dating thing on here. I get very annoyed with how horribly men take care of themselves or even try to communicate. Most men today on these sites are repulsive. It was refreshing to see you smile, and look nice. Thank you for that."

So it's not a bunch of red-pill alpha guys. I'm an average guy with basic manners and a lack of creepiness. Heck I was near my all time high weight at the time. Every single woman on those things has at least one story about a guy she met that will make you cringe from his behavior. My fav was the guy who sent a woman flowers before even meeting her - at her workplace! Dude the cyberstalking you need to do to pull that off is CREEPY AF - not romantic.

If you want to be in that top 10 percent of men the bar is incredibly low.

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packetlost 5 days ago | parent | prev | next [-]

No, it really does apply to both. Women who are not dating or are in a stable relationship won't use that app.

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jjangkke 5 days ago | parent | next [-]

People with stable values and relationships most likely won't be on these apps. The wide acceptance of hookup culture via apps is not universal.

In some cultures, mentioning dating apps will immediately lead to negative assumptions and connections are done through vetted networks and specific establishments where "hunting" activity is allowed, some with even more boundary pushing that would be impossible in Western culture.

	▲	kbelder 3 days ago \| parent \| next [-]
		>In some cultures, mentioning dating apps will immediately lead to negative assumptions Hell, that's the case in my culture, and I'm a modern American. These dating apps seem to be a consequence of modern urban disfunction, and I can't imagine ever using one. Or admitting without shame that I did. Now, that's my feeling, but I realize that others have different feelings, depending on which subcultures you're immersed in.
	▲	gruez 5 days ago \| parent \| prev [-]
		Not sure about what "some cultures" you're talking about, but AFAIK "dating apps" is the #1 answer (or at least in the top 3) to "how did you meet your partner" in many countries. They're not just for hookups. Many even market themselves as being for committed relationships, or have features to facilitate that (eg. filters).

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arrowsmith 5 days ago | parent | prev [-]

Yes but for the women who are on the app, the distribution of dates is much less skewed. (I assume.)

	▲	packetlost 5 days ago \| parent [-]
		Oh yeah, my whole point was the a selection bias.

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bongodongobob 5 days ago | parent | prev [-]

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