If you're comparing laptop to desktop keep in mind a lot of those top out at 5 to 45w (gaming) and desktop chips are 45-65w to 300w (threadripper) and have a lot more cooling behind them.

it's almost apples to oranges in most cases.

Not sure why you're trying to techsplain any of this to me. I never conflated desktop with laptop, not sure how you got that out of my comment.