Auto trans downshift is designed for long hills, not downshifting frequently to stop signs etc like you'd do with a stick.

Even with paddles, there's a delay, or it briefly goes neutral, or it doesn't rev-match well. Or you can't double/triple-downshift, which is worse when you have 8-12 gears. Allegedly wears them down faster too, which idk but would not be surprised if it were true given how unhappy it feels.