> Apparently ADHD isn't cool, but autism is weirdly seen as "better".

Unfortunately, I've found that to be true myself as well.

ADHD is still widely misunderstood by the general population, and it is in fact more difficult to get accommodations vs. autism. People without it just don't understand and can't envision the special hell that having this level of executive dysfunction brings in your day to day life.

For some reason, people view autism as "something they can't help" and yet don't view ADHD in the same way and will turn around say "idk man, you just need to focus and do the thing, it's not hard."

ADHD is also a neurodevelopmental disorder and a lot of work still needs to be done for society to view it as such, and move away from harmful attitudes like "they're just lazy."