I’m familiar with programmed vs unprogrammed services, but it sounded like you were saying that most Quakers don’t even do silent worship anymore, which sounded bizarre. I’m quite aware of how few Quakers there are, but doesn’t that definitionally mean my experience would be less of an outlier compared to the population? Did you perhaps mean to say that they’re more spread out and thus diverse in practices? Regardless, I’m not surprised my experience isn’t representative of the whole, just that there would be Quakers who aren’t doing silent worship. FWIW I spent part of my youth in a very high density Quaker area (eastern Massachusetts) but for the majority of it was in Virginia where Quakers are much less common

Most quakers don't experience silent worship as a main part of their practice, it is only a small (ten minutes or so) part of programmed meetings. There are certainly some who don't do it at all, but I don't know how prevalent it is. I believe globally it is at least as well represented as unprogrammed meetings are.