> You only learn permanently and effectively from particular stimulation coupled with surprise.

This is just, not true. A single 2min conversation with emotional or intellectual resonance can significantly alter a human’s thought process for years. There are some topics where every time they come up directly or analogously I can recall something a teacher told me in high school that “stuck” with me for whatever reason. And it isn’t even a “core” experience, just something that instantly clicked for my brain and altered my problem solving. At the time, there’s no heuristic that could predict how or why that particular interaction should have that kind of staying power.

Not to mention, experiences that subtly alter thinking or behavior just by virtue of providing some baseline familiarity instead of blank slate problem solving or routine. Like how you subtly adjust how you interact with coworkers based on the culture of your current company over time vs the last without any “flash” of insight required.