I solved it with different colored calendars in g-cal. Monthly => Rough => Detail => Actual.

Monthly is usually dragging a bunch of "all-day" events across multiple weeks. "school ends", "date night?" (across Fri->Sun), "vacation", "vacation pack", etc.

Rough is kindof planning out the upcoming week or two. I'll drag stuff across Saturday afternoon like "go to park?", and "buy paper towels from Sam's?" in the morning.

Detail is "15-min accuracy" of committed things. Doctor's appointments, birthday party invites, haircuts, or anything that is really "controlling" where I need to be or what I need to be doing at that point in time.

The "actual" calendar is for when I want to reconcile what actually happened vs what I'd planned to happen.

If I'm super "on it" with my detail calendar, maybe I didn't do "clean office" because in actuality I was doing "make dinner", "clean kitchen", and "watch movie with kids".

And integrating with work, sometimes I'll block a section (hour) in "actual" called "Work P1". That's supposed to be "the next item in the todo list", but it is sometimes really helpful to cross-check with "actual" and realize I was really "troubleshooting bug", or "helping coworker on xyz" or "continuing design discussion".

The "narrowing" and "accuracy" is helpful to learn how to do, and the big chunky things like "put fertilizer" and "in-laws visiting" help to make sure I don't schedule too much "detail" in times that already have a lot of external complexity.