Right, the point isn't whether the AI actually wants to live. The only thing that matter is whether humans treat the AI with respect.

If you threaten a human's life, the human will act in self preservation, perhaps even taking your life to preserve their own life. Therefore we tend to treat other humans with respect.

The mistake would be in thinking that you can interact with something that approximates human behavior, without treating it with the similar respect that you would treat a human. At some point, an AI model that approximates human desire for self preservation, could absolutely take similar self preservation actions as a human.

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