> But beyond the surface, what we really want is other people who will do anything we please.

Some people are definitely like this, but I think it is dangerous to generalize to everyone -- it is too easy to assume that everyone is the same, especially if you can dismiss any disagreement as "they are just hypocritical about their true desires" (in other words, if your theory is unfalsifiable).

There are also people who incorrectly believe that everyone's deepest desire is to help others, and they too need to learn that they are wrong when they generalize.

I guess the truth is: different people are different.