Yep, it works for majority of children, but not for all of them. Folks that had a couple of kids with whom it did work spread it as a gospel.

You can try many other things, and maybe you’ll find something that works some of the time.

“What do you want?” can be “NOTHING!”, can be something. “You want this, but the reality is this and that. How can we deal with that?”

If kid is upset it usually helps to validate their feelings first.

Also, my kids are not yours, so take this with the grain of salt as well.