Strange. I have my own .org and I've never had a problem with the California DMV's reset emails... I just had to reset mine a month or so ago to start my license renewal, and the reset email showed up almost as fast as I could switch tabs to my webmail.

Thanks, I appreciate the additional data point. They do have a tech support method so I can use this to start a ticket. It could be the same situation as the other commenter, where the underlying service is delaying outbound emails.