Remix clone Hacker News

My thought doesn’t change. Are you a founder? Are you getting outsized compensation for your work? I manage my workload by being able to communicate trade offs between cost, requirements and time and setting a ceiling on how long I’m willing to work.

I put in 40 maybe 45 hours of work and the company gets to choose how they get to use that time. I give my input. But they make the decision.

When I need to do “deep work”, I turn off Slack and email. Even before remote work was a thing, I would tell my managers I need some quiet time to get $x done and I’m working from home. They would get a couple of more hours in from me then.

I’m not afraid to say “no” traditionally because I thought I could get another job quickly. Things are of course crazier now and I’m a lot less cocky. But I still have a years expenses in the bank in addition to investments.

I have been working for 30 years almost and I have found that early stage, underfunded startups aren’t worth the effort or the monetary return.

In my later years, I’ve had multiple opportunities to be a “CTO” or “director” of a startup. The positions were always just a glorified team lead. I’ve said no.

▲

SonuSitebot 8 days ago | parent [-]

Fair points. I’m not a founder, but I’ve navigated three very different domains—business development in high-end fashion (traveling across multiple countries), niche technical leadership hiring, and now technical marketing, SEO, and product advocacy at a product-based startup. Burnout or feeling overwhelmed isn’t pushing me to quit.....I just want to manage it better.

Prioritization helps, but in a high-growth environment, trade-offs aren’t always straightforward. You mentioned setting a ceiling on your work hours—how do you enforce that when leadership keeps shifting priorities?

▲

scarface_74 8 days ago | parent [-]

They can shift priorities as needed as long as they understand that the trade off is going to be not getting something else done.

I was the second technical hire by the then new CTO of a startup I worked for from 2018-2020. He was hired to bring the development in house from a third party consulting company after the company had traction. He was in his 50s and very technical and I was in my mid 40s. The founders were also adults with families. None of us were young tech bros who put the job before everything else.

I was over the architecture and much of the technical strategy. I knew how to talk to them in terms of the business and they trusted my judgment.

> You mentioned setting a ceiling on your work hours—how do you enforce that when leadership keeps shifting priorities?

Just saying “no” especially after I had proven myself. I knew they weren’t going to fire me as long as I was respectful and professional because I was good at what I did - “cloud native development”. They were forced to make a decision about priorities.

Honestly, would I do that now in 2025 with the job market the way it is? I wish I could say I would. But I would probably just suck it up to a point. But most of the time, you can get them to prioritize.

I left that company in 2020 when a job at BigTech fell into my lap. But in 2023, the company that acquired the startup offered me a job as a staff architect based on a reference. When I spoke to the new CTO and described my thought process about trade offs between on time, on budget and meeting requirements and prioritization without burning people out, he liked my response

▲

SonuSitebot 7 days ago | parent [-]

I understand where you're coming from, especially with the shifting priorities and the need to make trade-offs. I resigned from my previous job in February 2024 after 10 years with the company, and although I interviewed with a client of the same company, they rejected me, saying my skills weren’t enough—despite successfully placing niche Director-level candidates in tech.

After that, I received a solid offer from another company with a decent salary. However, during that time, I was traveling to the USA to visit my sister, and I was truly inspired by my brother-in-law, who was building products for his Silicon Valley startup. It opened my eyes to the reality of the startup world—a high-risk, high-reward environment where "no" isn’t really an option. I am here by my choice now, but a lot of things are new, and the work is overloaded, so I’m actively finding ways to simplify things. That said, balancing everything is still tough. Exploring discussions like this is helping me. How do you manage?

▲

scarface_74 7 days ago | parent [-]

The sad truth is then that you can’t.

If you aren’t willing to say “no” and prioritize, there isn’t anything else.

We all make choices based on our priority stack. I don’t judge anyone for having a different priority stack than mine. I do however try to let people know the tradeoffs.

Before I got into consulting, I fell into roles as an early hire when mostly new to the company managers, directors, CTOs were starting new initiatives.

I talk to them about how they manage priorities and work life balance. If I saw a situation like yours I personally wouldn’t accept the job.

In fact, I didn’t accept a job that would have paid significantly more than I was making to be over the cloud migration and strategy for a largish company. I didn’t want the stress.

Again, I’m not saying that a high stress early startup is not the right choice for you just be aware of the tradeoffs and have an exit plan before it starts affecting your mental and physical health and your family if you have one.

I’m 50 and while I still need to work, I don’t need to chase comp. I enjoy my relatively low stress job as a staff architect at a consulting company with unlimited PTO.

	▲	SonuSitebot 5 days ago \| parent [-]
		I completely understand the importance of prioritizing, and I’m actively looking for ways to manage the workload better. I’ve started hiring interns for time-consuming tasks and providing them with proper training. I believe shortlisting from good colleges is key to finding quality interns. It’s a challenge, but in my 47 years of age I’m finding creative ways to balance it all.