My experience has been otherwise. There’s almost never a reason to be playing with something like db_connection._socket, but in that one place in your codebase you really really need to, it’s a lifesaver to have access to it.

Linters should be shouting about it and in the PR you’d need to explain why you turned off the warnings to do it anyway, with comments explaining why there was no other feasible option and this was the least bad choice.

BTW, I rarely write _methods and almost never __protected attributes. _something just means “it’s here but you really shouldn’t be playing with it.” I don’t see an advantage to using __anything.