I've been at it for a bit over 25 years as well and have worked on everything from telco billing projects to complex consumer applications. Query builders and ORMs are not the same thing, and it's odd that you conflate them.

The project that I happen to be on now has a mid sized db (~70 ish) tables with quite a few custom functions and complex queries. I have been untangling a mess of slonik queries and there's an objective difference in the quality of the code and the maintainability between that and the kysely code that's replacing it.

The people I see drift toward things like slonik tend to be journeyman level developers and they often end up over their skis. Smart folks a lot of the time, but inexperienced.