Excellence, consistency, boundaries, structure, periodic surprises to improve handling change, and confidence-building adversity.

Or, if you're a country rebel, just name them contrary to their most probable gender identity. /s

This could easily be misread as a culture war tangent, but at the risk of "explaining the joke", it's a reference to the song "A Boy Named Sue" (which TIL the Johnny Cash version is a cover, with the original artist being Shel Silverstein).