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UniverseHacker a day ago

This seems like well thought out advice, but I feel like most people don’t have the emotional intelligence or communication skills to pull off “wise parenting” - and will actually be doing “authoritarian parenting” without realizing it if they, e.g. try to enforce things like (cue Tom Smykowski in office space) “I know this sucks, but keep doing it until you reach the natural stopping point. The NATURAL STOPPING POINT I SAID. Can’t you see I’m a WISE PARENT.”

In general, one has to be careful using conceptual advice for things like parenting- as it can lead to justifying some pretty awful, even abusive behaviors. I’ve seen adults angrily or even violently forcing a child to do “power poses” so they would “grow up successful” - a fad idea based on discredited research that seems ridiculous and clearly fails the common sense test. Said child is now an adult and does not speak to that parent anymore.