Unfortunately a kid is not a computer, there is no 1 or even few right answers, not in 2024 not in 4042.

Anything beyond common sense and general knowledge about all mentioned topics is impossible to make applicable as is to your particular kid.

So all advice about "listen to your heart" are actually very true, because by design parents are made in a way that fits baby the best (or vice versa :). As long as they come from a place of good intentions and sincere altruistic love.