Most large open-source projects ban exceptions, often because the project was originally converted from C and is just not compatible with non-local control flow. Or the project originated within an organization which has tons of C++ code that is not exception-safe and is expected to integrate with that.

Some large commercial software systems use C++ exceptions, though.

Until recently, pretty much all implementations seemed to have a global mutex on the throw path. With higher and higher core counts, the affordable throw rate in a process was getting surprisingly slow. But the lock is gone in GCC/libstdc++ with glibc. Hopefully the other implementations follow, so that we don't end up with yet another error handling scheme for C++.