Every time I read people saying stuff like your comment, I'm like, "yeah, sure, survivorship bias and confirmation seeking still exists"

I mean this, if your value system mirrors that of a cult (sky deity who commands you to procreate and all) than it would make sense that your only mating options are within that "community". Of COURSE these people think these things. They're basically sequestered from the rest of the world.

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xyzelement 5 hours ago | parent [-]

How many kids do you have? It's hilarious that atheists are so smart and "it's just Darwinism" and then they literally die on that hill. Maybe there's something to this "sky deity" thing if the only people in the next generations are kids of those who believe.

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dh2022 an hour ago | parent | next [-]

It is hilarious :) "Idiocracy" is where the "only sky deity worshippers pro-create" movie ends.

I happen to have religious friends. They invited me once to a Christmas dinner - about 5 families. My and my wife were the only ones who did not have at least 2 kids (we had no kids at that time). My wife was the only woman working, and I was the only one who was not working construction - one of the guys made this remark, not me.

During the dinner the male host started playing on a keyboard. There was a chorus of women singing religious hymns around him (I am not making this up). One of the guys tried to convert me. All in good nature and polite and with no confrontation - these are all good people and we saw each other after that. But I skipped Christmas at their house the following year :)

	▲	xyzelement 32 minutes ago \| parent [-]
		Sounds like you have kids now and that's wonderful! "Wife being the only woman working" is an odd metric though. My wife went from being an ER physician when we met (fun times during COVID pregnant with our first) to doing telemedicine after we had our second, to doing that part time after we had our third. Similar to many women in our circle who are highly educated and professional, kids mean "working less" but this decision represents a desired and meaningful tradeoff. My wife loved her work but she (obviously?) loves being there for our children even more. At the end of the day, I suspect "singing around the piano" is a W not an L. It's funny that if you went to a "normal" party and everyone ended up drunk and scrolling on the phone you'd not posit that as how weird non-religious people are :)

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pike_poker 32 minutes ago | parent | prev [-]

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