> I know the world of technology is a different place now. But I _loved_ the fact that I had a computer in my room as a teenager in the early 2000s.

I think it's slightly less the world of technology, and more survivorship bias (and self bias, if that's a term?) You doing well, and well enough to be on a site like this, isn't evidence of very much when applied to a population. In general I'd say better ways to do things are totally to allow technology, but have it in public areas of the house, rather than in kids' rooms.

> 'parenting' is not simply taking tech away from their children

Indeed; no one is saying that.